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Summarizing

In the excerpt of " All Joy and No fun" the author Jennifer Senior tells us about the struggles of parenting with the negative effects of lost fun that come with parenting. Senior takes a look at parenting and some of the hassles of having children listing behaviors of parents trying to live up to the ideal of being the perfect role model for their children. In the story the author describes a situation where the oldest child of two is trying to play mind games with the parents. The child thinks he is doing nothing wrong as he fights with his mom to watch a movie instead of doing his homework but the mom was getting frustrated and upset all the while her oldest would not listen to her. Studies show that parents are less happy than adults without children. The differences in life satisfaction are small and not statistically significant. However the results of the of the study do indicate between similar demographics of adults who have children and adults who do not: The parents happiness are effected negatively. In addition mothers with children tend to be less happy than the fathers and single parents are the least happy. While it is true having children provides an unrivaled joy it also provides an unrivaled frustration. Many people have children believing it will make them happy when in all actually exactally the opposite is true. The act of child bearing may offer moments of transcendence but does not result in an improvement of well being overall. While it is true if one was to describe happiness as not just the act of having fun but what we have done with it parenting has it's rewards. To look at the argument philosophically rather than psychologically turns the debate. It could all depend on the individuals valuing moment to moment happiness over a retrospective evaluation of ones life, or vice versa. While it is true than parents may lead a less happy life than non parents studies also indicate that late in life only one out of every ten parents regret having families, while nine out of ten non parents regret never having children. To me it comes down to instant gratification versus the delights of nostalgia factored in with the individual. In summary happiness is a state of mind everyone seeks, however what results in one's happiness is as specific as the individual. Having a child may increase or decrease one's life satisfaction. The only real truth is the end result can not be predicted. I believe children are a joy and a piece of work. When you have children I feel you need to know that they are a handful before you take that step and dive into the cold water without dipping you feet on the shallow side. Children are joy because of those special moments you have but most people are so busy and worried to notice the special moments until they passed. Also people have to realize that children are a responsibility. You should not become a parent until you are ready to handle the responsibility mentally, physically, and financially. I agree with Senior, children make you less happy because they are a added responsibility, give you more to worry about and require constant care. With hard work comes great reward and it is for that reason I still believe that children are the greatest joy.

Ethnography first half

Ethnography first half

Every couple of months or so my company Starwood hires about 20 plus people. the first thing they receive is a tour around the building. Our building sits between the old Blockbuster and Cvs. When you walk into the building you have to walk through two doors. When you pass through the second door you meet Jane she is at the front desk. Next you walk down the hall and you come to the trainer offices. Then if you look straight ahead to the purple walls off set by one green wall and you begin to ask yourself what you have gotten yourself into. In front of you are 300 people on the phones and taking phone calls. The new class then takes there journey walk through the center having the walk of embarrassment. They walk through the call center of all their new colleagues thinking "oh my". The new class is all dressed to impress with the blank stare on their faces. They then take the stairs to the training room.

After three weeks of vigorous training; the first day on the floor you can see the nerves and excitement. As they log in and prepare to get there first call, you see them turn to their buddy on the side of them telling them that they scare and excited. Then "ding" its the first call there buddy gets. A tap on the shoulder saying "OMG I got a call" their buddy replies back "take it take it". They are so nervous the buddy is just staring at their friend to see how he/she handles the call. The second day they know how to set up the computer they feel like they know it all but little do they know, you should see how many questions they have that day and how stressed they look. It is not like we just train them and set them out to the wolves; We have the trainers and supervisors downstairs to help them with every question and anything they need the first week so that they are well prepared but they clearly look like thy are not. So the first week is over and there their on own.

Now outside the training class there is balcony where you can look over the entire center. While they are looking over the balcony at their senior colleagues They watch and listen to all the representatives. The senior colleagues are down on the floor and looking up to the newbie’s. The senior colleagues are chatting of how the new class is going to react to the new environment. The seniors start to begin the chattering and pick out who will be here for a while , and what they did before they received this job. Basically they gossip amongst themselves.

It is now the three month marker of whether the new reps can withstand the job in customer service sales or not. I have had first hand in seeing this new class bloom from "caterpillars into butterflies" or "beautiful sunflowers that wither away". To work in customer service sales you have to have a talent to drive the customers to choose specifically what room and place they want to stay at and convinced them of something never seen before except in pictures. These first three months are the most critical because you need to learn the system, the lingo and you have to learn how to never give up without a booking.

Eventually the new reps settle into their jobs and we all work well together. Those that struggle don't make it and unfortunately quit or get fired. but the cycle of this position all depends on the person. I know it is not easy and I work hard every day to keep up with the required stats, and life goes on...

Taking Advantage

I was young an naive when I bought my new car. I ignored good advice and let people take advantage of me. I was eighteen and working two jobs while trying to maintain a social life. Little did I know real friends did not need to borrow your car everyday and not pick you up from work on time.

It was a beautiful morning when I went to work at Crawford nursing home where I was employed as a Dietary Aide. As soon as I got to work my friend Kayla called. Kayla was a friend of a friend and I wanted to be polite. To be honest I wasn't that fond of her. She always had a problem, story, or some kind of drama and just didn't have the patience for that. Unfortunately I was to nice and she took advantage of me without me even realizing it until it was too late. Kayla asked if she could use my car because she had needed to do some errands and bring her baby to the doctors. I felt bad for the baby and said yes. I told her I would pick her up when I left work.

I asked Kayla to be ready because I had to get to my second job. When I got to Kayla's house she was not ready and I was upset. She finally came out after having me wait for a half an hour and I had to rush to work. Then my sister called to tell me that my niece had been in trouble at school for hitting another girl. I made it to work just in time for my shift and asked Kayla to please pick me up on time.

Later that night I was let go from work two hours early. I was excited to leave early but did not have my car so I called Kayla and asked her to come get me. Kayla said she would be right there but did not show up for two hours. I was furious. I got in the car and didn't say anything. I was silent the whole ride home and almost cried after I dropped Kayla off I had felt like . Two streets from my house my best friend Vanessa called. She was stuck out in Raynham and needed a ride home.

It was past one in the morning and I was tired but I agreed to go get her. On the way up I called my sister to see how my niece was. I got lost and hit a pole trying to take the exit. I pulled over and started to cry. I didn't know what to do and called my sister to come get me.

I learned the hard way that I can't please everyone. Sometimes you have to say no to people. Everything happens for a reason and I learned from my mistake. I would like to thank my best friends Vanessa for helping me see this.